I'm just wanting to know if this is somehow an initiation to the site. This is what I've experienced since I've joined the site, excluding the good convos and the names of the colorful male parties.
The first time I went to chat after I became a member, a guy wanted to cyber, basic jerk, but I am mature enough to deal with them. I was actually expecting some of them, so moving on. It was the next time I go to chat that things got weird. Apparently I catch the eye of A British man almost twice my age, who wanted to chat, okay, I'm not against making friends. We chat for a while, he says some things, I think he's joking. I have mentioned in previous blogs being naive, but this night I was also oblivious. It wasn't until he asked to do a fashion show for me,that I realized he wasn't kidding. He was a British Transvestite. And I must say, if nothing else, he had great legs and great taste in shoes. It was however when he wanted to start modeling his under garment collection for me that it turned from oddly comical to horrific. Strike one. Next guy, an Australian guy, actually my age. (yay!) We start talking and are getting along great, then he says how I mentioned I like honesty. I do, I value it above almost all else. But I learned there is a place for too much honesty too soon. He casually mentions how he's into bondage, going into detail and including a website. Okay, strike two... And the third strike wasn't really weird, just cruel. It was a guy my own age again, and this time actually near me. I e-mail him, and he responds. And then we become friends on another site, too. We start chatting. I really like this guy. He is good looking, sweet, kind, respectful. I ask him what the catch is, because there always seems to be one with guys I like. He says no catch. He gives me his phone number, I call. We talk and it's like connection! He seems actually flustered to have me on the phone, he said he wasn't sure if I was real. Anyway, he asked to meet, sure he lives an hour away. Then I ask where, he'll call me back... Strike three apparently started to feel guilty at this point and called his mother for advice (so he said) and she convinced him he had to tell me that the ex-girlfriend he had brought up in passing wasn't exactly an ex. In fact the were very much together and his mom thinks that she's the one for him. Did I mention she's 17 and he's 24? Is that even legal? Anyways, I'm annoyed at most men, and some women come to think of it, and I thought I'd share. Anybody else have an interesting encounter they'd like to share?
I'm just wanting to know if this is somehow an initiation to the site. This is what I've experienced since I've joined the site, excluding the good convos and the names of the colorful male parties.
The first time I went to chat after I became a member, a guy wanted to cyber, basic jerk, but I am mature enough to deal with them. I was actually expecting some of them, so moving on. It was the next time I go to chat that things got weird. Apparently I catch the eye of A British man almost twice my age, who wanted to chat, okay, I'm not against making friends. We chat for a while, he says some things, I think he's joking. I have mentioned in previous blogs being naive, but this night I was also oblivious. It wasn't until he asked to do a fashion show for me,that I realized he wasn't kidding. He was a British Transvestite. And I must say, if nothing else, he had great legs and great taste in shoes. It was however when he wanted to start modeling his under garment collection for me that it turned from oddly comical to horrific. Strike one. Next guy, an Australian guy, actually my age. (yay!) We start talking and are getting along great, then he says how I mentioned I like honesty. I do, I value it above almost all else. But I learned there is a place for too much honesty too soon. He casually mentions how he's into bondage, going into detail and including a website. Okay, strike two... And the third strike wasn't really weird, just cruel. It was a guy my own age again, and this time actually near me. I e-mail him, and he responds. And then we become friends on another site, too. We start chatting. I really like this guy. He is good looking, sweet, kind, respectful. I ask him what the catch is, because there always seems to be one with guys I like. He says no catch. He gives me his phone number, I call. We talk and it's like connection! He seems actually flustered to have me on the phone, he said he wasn't sure if I was real. Anyway, he asked to meet, sure he lives an hour away. Then I ask where, he'll call me back... Strike three apparently started to feel guilty at this point and called his mother for advice (so he said) and she convinced him he had to tell me that the ex-girlfriend he had brought up in passing wasn't exactly an ex. In fact the were very much together and his mom thinks that she's the one for him. Did I mention she's 17 and he's 24? Is that even legal? Anyways, I'm annoyed at most men, and some women come to think of it, and I thought I'd share. Anybody else have an interesting encounter they'd like to share?
Quoting: Originally posted by islandgal64 Oooh Mathlion, the /british guy's name didn't start with southern did it? Sounds like someone I chatted to a while back - seemed great to chat to then we arranged to meet up. Suddenly he vanished into thin air.
Then I found out through some of the overseas women on here that he had a thing for dressing in womens clothes and putting on shows on his cam.
Not a nice person - steer clear.
But generally, there are some good guys on here, they can just be hard to find. I try to manage my expectations - expect the worst but hope for the best!
Good luck!
As far as the British guy, we're probably talking about the same guy. And the fact that he does the fashion shows regularly, while scary, somehow comforts me in the fact that it wasn't something I did or said that made him feel he could "expose" that side of himself. If that makes sense.
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Quoting: Originally posted by islandgal64 Oooh Mathlion, the /british guy's name didn't start with southern did it? Sounds like someone I chatted to a while back - seemed great to chat to then we arranged to meet up. Suddenly he vanished into thin air.
Then I found out through some of the overseas women on here that he had a thing for dressing in womens clothes and putting on shows on his cam.
Not a nice person - steer clear.
But generally, there are some good guys on here, they can just be hard to find. I try to manage my expectations - expect the worst but hope for the best!
Good luck!
As far as the British guy, we're probably talking about the same guy. And the fact that he does the fashion shows regularly, while scary, somehow comforts me in the fact that it wasn't something I did or said that made him feel he could "expose" that side of himself. If that makes sense.
Quoting: Originally posted by 4funorlove this thread made me laugh :-)
it also brings to mind a saying- life doesnt bring you what it want, it gives you what you need... if its true, this thread is scary, and even funnier :)
I'm not sure what that says about me if this is what I need. I still have flashbacks of the fashion show. I think I'll have to send life a memo of my updated needs list! :) -Erin
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Quoting: Originally posted by 4funorlove this thread made me laugh :-)
it also brings to mind a saying- life doesnt bring you what it want, it gives you what you need... if its true, this thread is scary, and even funnier :)
I'm not sure what that says about me if this is what I need. I still have flashbacks of the fashion show. I think I'll have to send life a memo of my updated needs list! :) -Erin
it also brings to mind a saying- life doesnt bring you what it want, it gives you what you need... if its true, this thread is scary, and even funnier :)
this thread made me laugh :-)
it also brings to mind a saying- life doesnt bring you what it want, it gives you what you need... if its true, this thread is scary, and even funnier :)
Oh man, I've totally went through similar things through the sites! You have to kind of look between the lines to actually find some decent guys!
I've met a few decent guys, but no attraction.
Usually, the decent ones are ones that you're not seeing yourself with. Which is horribly awful because then you're doing what someone did to you just because of looks, but-- that is life.
And I agree with both True and Red.
Life is a test, but don't let these silly toads let you down! And as True said, don't think of them as partners because then you'll assume so many things and when they do something stupid and or "vanish into thin air" it wouldn't hurt as bad because there's no expectations on having a REAL relationship!
Good luck with it all, though! I'm going through the same thing. :)
Oh man, I've totally went through similar things through the sites! You have to kind of look between the lines to actually find some decent guys!
I've met a few decent guys, but no attraction.
Usually, the decent ones are ones that you're not seeing yourself with. Which is horribly awful because then you're doing what someone did to you just because of looks, but-- that is life.
And I agree with both True and Red.
Life is a test, but don't let these silly toads let you down! And as True said, don't think of them as partners because then you'll assume so many things and when they do something stupid and or "vanish into thin air" it wouldn't hurt as bad because there's no expectations on having a REAL relationship!
Good luck with it all, though! I'm going through the same thing. :)
I agree with True , life is a test, and what lesson it has in store for you depends on how you have learned the current one being played.
Dont let this get you down, you have to kiss a lot of toads to find your prince, and on here I guess you have to talk to lots before you will find that one that is worth your attention.
I agree with True , life is a test, and what lesson it has in store for you depends on how you have learned the current one being played.
Dont let this get you down, you have to kiss a lot of toads to find your prince, and on here I guess you have to talk to lots before you will find that one that is worth your attention.
Oooh Mathlion, the /british guy's name didn't start with southern did it? Sounds like someone I chatted to a while back - seemed great to chat to then we arranged to meet up. Suddenly he vanished into thin air.
Then I found out through some of the overseas women on here that he had a thing for dressing in womens clothes and putting on shows on his cam.
Not a nice person - steer clear.
But generally, there are some good guys on here, they can just be hard to find. I try to manage my expectations - expect the worst but hope for the best!
Good luck!
Oooh Mathlion, the /british guy's name didn't start with southern did it? Sounds like someone I chatted to a while back - seemed great to chat to then we arranged to meet up. Suddenly he vanished into thin air.
Then I found out through some of the overseas women on here that he had a thing for dressing in womens clothes and putting on shows on his cam.
Not a nice person - steer clear.
But generally, there are some good guys on here, they can just be hard to find. I try to manage my expectations - expect the worst but hope for the best!
LIFE is a test, honey. I had a good giggle, too, with the fashion show guy. No kidding? LOL! Try not to think of all these "encounters" as "possibles". Think of every single one of them as "aquaintances". It'll hurt less when they do something stupid. I have programmed myself to not think of someone as a potential partner until I meet them and invest some time into the development of not only a mental and intellectual attraction, but also a physical one. Men are so finnicly, just as we are. There is NO guarantee that what we say online is how we will feel in person.
So, hold off on getting any sort of emotional attachment until you meet in person. And then, always be guarded. It is so easy for people to be taken advantage of when we are out there actively seeking love. They KNOW this. Don't make it easy for them!
--True
LIFE is a test, honey. I had a good giggle, too, with the fashion show guy. No kidding? LOL! Try not to think of all these "encounters" as "possibles". Think of every single one of them as "aquaintances". It'll hurt less when they do something stupid. I have programmed myself to not think of someone as a potential partner until I meet them and invest some time into the development of not only a mental and intellectual attraction, but also a physical one. Men are so finnicly, just as we are. There is NO guarantee that what we say online is how we will feel in person.
So, hold off on getting any sort of emotional attachment until you meet in person. And then, always be guarded. It is so easy for people to be taken advantage of when we are out there actively seeking love. They KNOW this. Don't make it easy for them!
mathlion...i first read that & got the giggles, but then i realised you are the same age as my daughter and my maternal tiger was let on the loose...grrrrrr! give me their names so i can go after them!!!
Seriously though, it is a big world wide web & as naive as you say you are you know they're out there...we've all experienced something like it.... though i havent yet had an on line fashion show!? (still being British, he did the polite thing and asked you first)
Carry on chatting, if anything makes you uncomfortable stop the chat immediately & block them. I know there are nice guys out there..I've managed to have some really nice conversations with some on here:-) xx
mathlion...i first read that & got the giggles, but then i realised you are the same age as my daughter and my maternal tiger was let on the loose...grrrrrr! give me their names so i can go after them!!!
Seriously though, it is a big world wide web & as naive as you say you are you know they're out there...we've all experienced something like it.... though i havent yet had an on line fashion show!? (still being British, he did the polite thing and asked you first)
Carry on chatting, if anything makes you uncomfortable stop the chat immediately & block them. I know there are nice guys out there..I've managed to have some really nice conversations with some on here:-) xx
Hi there, I've talked to the British guy, the student in ? , the tennis guy - but really enough to just say "no thanks but good luck" - they just want attention - don't we all sometimes. But I am truly sorry for the connection that didn't end up working out - truly better to know now rather than later - might not feel that way right now but better that he ended up telling you situation even if it's not the whole story rather than stringing you along. While I agree that sometimes the mood is right to flirt - it certainly is not the only thing I want to do with strangers and that's what they are.
Hi there, I've talked to the British guy, the student in ? , the tennis guy - but really enough to just say "no thanks but good luck" - they just want attention - don't we all sometimes. But I am truly sorry for the connection that didn't end up working out - truly better to know now rather than later - might not feel that way right now but better that he ended up telling you situation even if it's not the whole story rather than stringing you along. While I agree that sometimes the mood is right to flirt - it certainly is not the only thing I want to do with strangers and that's what they are.
